How Your Brain Lies to You And How to Outsmart These Sneaky Lie
- Julia Maslava
- May 19, 2025
- 7 min read
Updated: 3 days ago
Your brain is brilliant… but it can also be a world-class storyteller.
And not always in the good way.
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking “I’m not good enough,” “I don’t have time,” “Everyone else is ahead,” “I’ll be happy when…” you’ve already experienced the power of cognitive distortions. They’re the tiny, sneaky mental lies that twist your thinking and quietly shape how you feel, act, and show up in the world.
I used to believe many of these lies myself, especially the perfectionism-coloured ones. And the more I worked on wellness, planning, journaling, and building a mindful life, the more I realised:
Your brain doesn’t lie to hurt you.
It lies to protect you, but sometimes in all the wrong ways.
In this expanded guide, we’ll gently unpack the most common mental lies your brain tells you, how they shape your reality, and practical, compassionate ways to outsmart them using mindful awareness, proven mindset tools, and simple daily practices.
Why Your Brain Lies: A Gentle Understanding
Your brain’s job is to keep you safe. To predict danger. To avoid risk. But here’s where things go wrong:
Your brain would rather keep you unhappy but familiar
than happy but uncertain.
So when you dream bigger, rest more, speak up, try something new, set a boundary, or grow beyond old limits, the brain panics a little.
It sends you mental lies disguised as:
“logic”
“common sense”
“realism”
“your true personality”
“just being honest with yourself”
But here’s the good news:
Once you learn to spot these sneaky mental traps, you can take back control and shift your mindset toward clarity, confidence, and growth. You can gently retrain it with awareness, truth, and tiny intentional actions.
This is where journaling, self-reflection, and mindful digital planning become powerful tools. They help you slow down the moment, look at your thoughts, and choose differently.
Let’s uncover the biggest lies your brain tells you—and the powerful ways to challenge and outsmart them.
If you’d like a quiet space to gently work through recurring thoughts, the Brain Lies Workbook offers guided reflection without pressure or forced positivity:
Lie 1. “I’ll Be Happy When…”
Your brain loves to convince you that happiness is a destination. This lie pretends to be motivation, but it’s actually emotional procrastination.
Your brain convinces you that happiness lives somewhere “out there”:
when the work slows down
when you earn more
when weight changes
when life becomes less chaotic
But happiness is not a destination. It’s a skill. A daily practice. A way of relating to your life right now.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Practice micro-gratitude, not lists, but tiny moments of noticing.
Write “What’s already working?” in your journal every morning.
Set emotional goals, not just achievement goals.
Redefine success as small, daily wins.
Embrace the idea that happiness comes from within, not from external achievements.
These related posts can help you embrace mindfulness in every day of your life:
How to Create a Work Life Balance that Combines Work, Play, and Rest
How to Use Your Wellness Toolkit to Find Balance and Inspiration
How to Balance Ambition with Contentment: A Guide to Joyful Success
How to Manage Time More Mindfully: Productivity with Mindfulness
How to Turn Ordinary Moments into Extraordinary Joys: A New Perspective on Everyday Magic
Lie 2. “I’m Not Good Enough”
This is one of the most common and damaging lies our brains tell us. Self-doubt whispers that we’re not talented, smart, or worthy enough to succeed—so why even try? The inner critic has only one job: prevent humiliation.
But self-doubt is not accuracy, it’s overprotection.
It shows up when:
you start something new
you step outside your comfort zone
you try to rest instead of overwork
you compare your journey to someone else’s.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Recognise that self-doubt is not truth, it’s fear in disguise.
Talk back to the thought: “Is this fear or fact?”
Collect evidence of your past successes (even small ones!) to remind yourself of your capabilities: keep a “proof list”: a running note of small wins, compliments, progress.
Reframe mistakes as learning experiences rather than proof of inadequacy: rewrite failures as data, not identity.
I explain this idea more fully in the Brain Lies approach: how our minds create stories to protect us, even when they no longer serve us.
If you've ever felt like a fraud and found yourself unworthy of your salary, recognition, or success, I'm sure you'll find this post very helpful: "Overcoming Imposter Syndrome".
Lie 3. “It Has to Be Perfect”
Perfectionism is a sneaky trap. It tricks you into thinking that unless something is flawless, it’s not worth doing at all. This mindset leads to procrastination, burnout, and self-criticism. Perfectionism pretends to be high standards — but it’s just self-protection in disguise.
It tells you:
“Don’t start unless it’s flawless.”
“Fix it again.”
“Everyone will judge you.”
But perfectionism doesn’t help you finish things — it keeps you from starting them.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Shift from perfectionism to progress-ism—focus on growth, not flawless results.
Switch to gentle productivity: aim for consistency, not intensity.
Use a “good enough” checklist in your planner instead of impossible expectations.
Remember: Done is better than perfect!
Celebrate imperfect progress.
Lie 4. “Everyone Else Has It All Figured Out”
This lie thrives on social media. You compare your behind the scenes to someone else’s highlight reel. Social media makes it look like everyone is thriving, except you. But the truth? Everyone struggles. Everyone doubts. No one, truly no one, has everything figured out.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Limit comparison triggers by focusing on your own journey.
Remind yourself that social media is a highlight reel, not real life.
Connect with people authentically: behind the scenes everyone is facing their own challenges.
Share your real moments with trusted people.
Track your milestones, not the internet’s.
Journaling helps bring you back to your own path.
Lie 5. “If I Ignore It, It Will Go Away”
Avoidance feels good for a moment, but it always costs more later. Whether it’s finances, health, or difficult conversations, it only makes them worse. Your brain wants to protect you from discomfort, but ignoring issues doesn’t solve them.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Face challenges head-on with small, manageable steps.
Break avoidance loops with tiny 5-minute actions.
Remind yourself that taking action reduces stress in the long run and creates relief.
Use digital planner checklists to make hard tasks feel lighter.
Seek support if needed: you’re not meant to figure everything out alone.
Lie 6. “I Don’t Have Enough Time”
The “not enough time” lie makes you feel stuck. It appears when you’re tired, overwhelmed, or overcommitted. Time scarcity makes everything feel urgent, heavy, impossible.
But the truth is: you don’t need more time; you need clarity and boundaries. We all have the same 24 hours; it’s about prioritisation, not lack of time.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Track where your time actually goes for one day (you might be surprised!).
Prioritise what truly matters instead of trying to “do it all": identify your actual priorities.
Say no to non-essential commitments.
Use monthly and weekly planning to reclaim your hours.
You might find interesting to reed the following posts if you want to manage time mindfully:
How to Manage Time More Mindfully: Productivity with Mindfulness
How to Simplify Daily Routine: A Guide to Less Stress and More Productivity
Lie 7. “I Need Motivation First”
Waiting for motivation to strike? Motivation isn’t something you find, it’s something you create through action. Motivation rarely comes before action; it follows action.
If you wait to feel ready, you’ll wait forever.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Take the smallest possible step: 30 seconds is enough.
Create rituals, not rules.
Build systems that don’t rely on willpower.
Focus on consistency over intensity. Small daily actions lead to big results.
Lie 8. “My Past Defines My Future”
Your brain might tell you that because you’ve failed, struggled, or made mistakes in the past, you’re destined for the same in the future. But your past is not your prison. Old mistakes, old versions of you, old habits, they’re not destiny, although your brain recycles them as predictions.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Reframe your past as a learning experience, not a life sentence.
Write new identity statements:
“I am someone who learns and evolves.”
Focus on who you’re becoming.
Reinforce new patterns with intentional daily habits.
Take small, intentional steps toward the future you want.
Lie 9. “Change is Too Hard”
Your brain loves routines, even unhealthy ones. It resists change. Change feels dangerous, not because it is, but because it’s unfamiliar. But growth requires stepping outside your comfort zone.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Break goals into small, manageable steps.
Expect discomfort: it’s a sign of rewiring and growth.
Focus on long-term benefits instead of short-term discomfort.
Track your progress to keep your momentum visible.
Lie 10. “I’m Alone in This”
When you’re struggling, it’s easy to feel like you’re the only one who feels this way. This lie hurts the most, and it’s rarely true. But in reality, you are never alone.
How to Outsmart This Lie
Reach out for support: whether it’s friends, family, or a community.
Remember that vulnerability builds connection and you’re not a burden.
Remind yourself that everyone faces struggles, even if they don’t show it.
Share your inner experiences; others will echo “me too.”
Even Though Your Brain Lies, You Can Outsmart It & Take Back Control
Your brain is powerful, but you are in charge. By recognising and challenging these sneaky mental lies, you can free yourself from self-doubt, fear, and limiting beliefs.
Before:
Your brain runs the show: telling stories, predicting danger, keeping you small and safe. You feel reactive, overwhelmed, unsure, or stuck in old patterns that don’t match who you’re becoming.
After:
You recognise the stories. You question them. You anchor yourself in truth and intention. You respond with awareness instead of reacting out of fear.
Your days feel lighter, clearer, calmer, because you’re back in the driver’s seat.
Use This Week to Outsmart Just One Mental Lie
Start small:
Choose the one that feels loudest right now.
Write it down.
Name the truth underneath it.
Plan one gentle action to challenge it.
Every time it sneaks up, remind yourself of the truth. With time, awareness, and intentional action, you’ll reshape your mindset and unlock a more confident, fulfilled, and empowered version of yourself.
You can download free gentle preview of the Brain Lies approach to start your journey in changing your thoughts. You don’t need to transform everything, just shift one degree in a kinder direction.
Want more tools to support your mindset and daily clarity?
Explore my Digital Wellness Planner created to help you track habits, reflect gently, and stay emotionally grounded through everyday ups and downs.
Which of these mental lies have you caught yourself believing? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
4 from 10 :/ There is a lot of work to be done for my self-discovery. Thank you!